Monday, September 29, 2008

The "skinny"in Skinny Jeans

Not only am I a blogger, I frequent a lot of the other blogs out there. My fav? The personal style ones; you know the trendy-wardrobe-on-a-budget/this-is-my-cute-outfit-and-this-is-where-I-bought-each-individual-item type.

In my recent blog surfing binges I noticed a bit of a pattern. The phrase "skinny jeans are for skinny girls" is a recurring theme among most-if not all. Now I adore my fellow fashionistas but I respectfully disagree. And it's not just me being sensitive; I have not been "skinny" in about 6 years but you best believe I rocks my curves! And I own a pair, as a matter of fact I just ordered another pair a few days ago.

See, I believe personal style is about fit and confidence. I have seen some daring outfits, but when something fits well and you are rockin it like no one just makes sense. So in that respect no, not every trend is for everyone. But looking good in skinny jeans is more about the looking good than the skinny.

I knew there would be haters when it came to this topic, so I did a little investigating. The video below schools us all (particularly us thick girls) on how to shop for the right pair. Take it away Toccara, girl!

Friday, September 26, 2008

Friday Fuck You

  1. Fuck You. I am not done celebrating. Yes I am still going out tonight, IN THE RAIN!
  2. Fuck You. I did cut my hair. Yes, it was long/thick/pretty/whatever compliment people pay you before they politely tell you what they really think of your new do. And now it is gone. It is my head...get over it!
  3. Fuck You. I am going to cut it again when I decide I am done with this hair cut!
  4. Fuck You. It is true, I am NEVER satisfied. That is why I continue to strive for better. Complacence is not in me, deal with it.
  5. Fuck You. It's true, "Boston girls do it better"
  6. Fuck You. Tyler Perry hates black women. Yeah, I said it! Even though the majority of his fortune came from the black woman's pocket he consistently portrays us in a negative light in his plays and movies.
  7. Fuck You. I am 28 and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up!

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Stretch Those Dollars

Now this is a far cry from a financial planning blog, but I felt I should address the topic anyway. The slump in the economy has hurt us all in some way shape or form. I've been getting a little nervous myself because KB and weren't exactly ballin' in the first place. IN my quest for some sound financial advice, I found the following tips I wanted to share with my readers. The entire article can be found here.

  1. Set up and start following a family household budget. Your budget should include all your major expenses (mortgage, car payments, credit card payments, etc).

  2. Go over your budget (aforementioned in step 1 above) and determine which of your non-essential activities you can either cut down on or eliminate.

  3. For one week keep track of every penny you spend during the day. The vast majority of Americans haven't a clue as to how much real money actually flows through their hands every month or how much control over their money they really have.

  4. Start your own campaign to use energy and resources more wisely. It's no longer about being green - now it's all about saving money! You can take a huge bite out of your electric bill by changing the way you use your air conditioner without really changing your lifestyle.

  5. Do everything possible to eliminate credit card debt as fast as possible. The average family has way too much and most people never fully realize how much it actually costs to use credit instead of paying cash.

  6. Become a coupon Queen (or King). Coupons are here again and you don't even have to clip them! You simply go to a site like , find the coupons you're interested in, print them out and take them with you when you go shopping.

Granted, this is just common sense for a few of you. But if it isn't and you truly are looking for a little guidance, I hope this information helps keep those dollars in your pockets.

Friday, September 19, 2008

Friday Fuck You

Yes, ladies and gents...this is the second installment of the Friday Fuck You. I know you guys were a lil shy last week but I expect to see some good ones from here on out. I cannot be the only one putting my grievances out there. I feel naked, lol

1. Fuck You. I am 28 today. And since fall starts on the 21st I am technically a summer baby!
2. Fuck You. Before I officially begin my work day, I must check my email and my blog reader. Who gets right to work at 8:30?
3. Fuck You. Hip Hop is dead. "Marco Polo" are we serious? Soldja Boy is the hip hop kryptonite!
4. Fuck You. Derwin and Melanie belong together and thank God The Game returns Oct. 3rd.
5. Fuck You. I am not the only one who is terrified by the idea of President McCain and Vice President Palin.
6. Fuck You. I still read Cosmo. And sometimes I try the tricks! *wink
7. Fuck You. You can take my entrepreneurial endeavors as a joke. Just don't ask me for a free book when you see everyone reading one of my releases.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Luxaholic:The Finer Things

Contrary to what my readers might believe...the finer things to me are not the things I purchase on my shopping binges. They aren't found in my Coach collection (although technically I didn't purchase any of those things myself), it's not any of the gadgets I own, not a single pair of the many shoes in my closet. The finer things to me are so much more simple.

The finer things are thoughtful. They are the little things that let you know someone was thinking of you. Like opening my mailbox after a hard day's work and finding a birthday card from a co-worker. This is a girl, I know through my aunt. In fact I've only hung out with her twice outside the workplace. Yet she remembered I have a birthday coming. Beyond that she took the time to buy me a card and get a hold of my address. How amazing does that feel?

I am a Luxaholic but I don't impose my preference for those things on others. It really is the thought that counts...just a little something to say "hey, I was thinking about you". That's all I ever ask!

Sunday, September 14, 2008

I Love Your Blog!

I've been nominated for the "I love your blog" award! It feels good to be loved! Thank you Ms. S!!! Would an acceptance speech be a bit much? I would like to thank my family, KB, my friends, and the insane world I live in for being my inspiration to write. Of course, above all else, I'd like to thank God! Just kidding folks...but in all honesty it was an honor being nominated, lol

And now I shall pass the torch...

Now The Rules:
1. The nominated is allowed to put this picture on their blogs.
2. Link to the person who hearted you.
3. Nominate at least 7 other people and link to them.
4. Leave a message on those people's blog to make them aware that they're nominated.

I nominate:
1. Ms. S of course, her blog keeps me in stitches!
2. Islandista
3. Single Black Male
4. Sister Toldja
5. Kasmira
6. The Cheap Chica
7. Cheap Thrills-Boston

Friday, September 12, 2008

The Friday Fuck You

Thanks to Patrice over at A Day in My World, I will be starting a new tradition. Each Friday I will list 7 affirmations and rants, called The Friday Fuck You. Ideally, it is just a bit of reassurance (ex"Fuck You. I will make $70k this year."). Just a little something to keep the spirits up. Sounds a bit harsh, may even lose a few readers due to language, but I promise you guys it's all in good fun (and tasteful).

Without further ado...Here is today's Friday Fuck You

1. Fuck You. My book will be in print next year. So be ready for big thangs from Dorchester's Daughter Publishing in '09
2. Fuck You. When/If we are getting married I'll let you know....may even send you an invitation. Until then, don't ask me again.
3. Fuck You. I will take my birthday off of work even though I just got back from vacation.
4. Fuck You. There is nothing wrong with "Modern Girls", a woman can have career and family. They named the show DESPERATE Housewives for a reason.
5. Fuck You. You can have the body of a video vixen and the brain of a scholar. I am sexy AND smart.
6. Fuck You. My new mantra is Successful and Fine in '09 (shout out to MyMoneyDream!)
7. Fuck You. That felt good. All that cursing and I am still a lady!

Woosah! That felt good yall! Everyone needs to vent every once in a while so I encourage the readers to embrace the new tradition and stop in the comments section to leave your own Friday Fuck You .

Thursday, September 11, 2008

Whatever You Like

Male bloggers haven't been very supportive of the new T.I. song. And I can understand their hesitance to an extent...but I am a lady. And damned if I am gonna turn up my nose at a brotha who says I can have whatever I like;

Hundred K deposits, vacations hit the tropics/ Cause errbody know it ain't trickin if ya got it/ Ya need to never ever gotta go to yo wallet/ Long as I got rubberband banks in my pocket/ Five six, rides with rims and a body kit/ Ya ain't gotta downgrade you can get what I get /My chick can have what she want/ And go in every store for any bag she want/ And know she ain't never had a man like that/ To buy ya anything your heart desire like that

"Baby you can have whatever you like"

Just hearing it give me the warm and fuzzies! Do we need a man to tell us that? No. Are we depending on a man to give us anything? Hell no. But that doesn't mean we aren't open to being spoiled. In the same way a man wants to know that after a long day at work, he can come home to a cold beer and a hot meal...a woman would like to think that because she's made that possible she can have whatever she likes!

Fellas, you are looking at it the wrong way. We are not talking about gold diggers. Nor are we looking for a handout. We are simply saying it's nice to hear a man say that he is willing to give his lady whatever her heart desires.

Does KB spoil me? No, I am all about spoiling myself. But, for the record, this Miss Independent is independent by choice. Not too many guys feel the way T.I. does; and I am not a fan of the question "why do you need_________?".

But don't fret my dears...until T.I.'s sentiment is shared by the masses we CAN have whatever we like. As long as we are willing to buy it ourselves!

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

I've Got My Eye on You

Beloved Readers,

Not Ms. S or MyMoneyDream (although they are beloved, love ya cuzzos, lol). YOU. Yes, you! Believe me it IS a sigh of relief that someone is amused by my ramblings. I love that you come by every now and then, but I feel like the love is not returned sometimes yall. It's a lot like looking for love in a one night stand; you come by, get your kicks, and I never hear from you again. To put it bluntly, it's a whole lot of "wham bam thank you ma'am" going on.

Recently, one of my posts was featured on SBM. Now he talks a whole lot of mess, but when he is (eh ehem) wrong his audience speaks up. It was a blessing being posted on his site because although my opinion was not shared by all, there were some strong counter-arguments. And you know what?...I would never have thought about those things. I only saw my experience that night from my own perspective.

While I am doing this as an alternative to journaling, the best part of being on the web is that the world is my oyster. I have readers as close to home as Providence, NH, and NY. There are readers across oceans and continents in places like South Africa, Brazil, and France. And I love every. single. one of you. I get the warm and fuzzies just thinkin about yall! I would love some feedback. Get your Young Jeezy on, and "put on" for your city!!! You don't have to comment on every single post...but if you read something that you agree or disagree with preach!

I know your there, don't get all scurred on me now. No need to stop visiting because I put you on blast. I just want to encourage you all to voice your opinions in the same way I openly voice mine. From this day forward no more peeping!

Let's start with an ice breaker. I'll go first, my name is Dorchester's Daughter and I am from the Dot. My numero uno fans are my cuzzos Ms. S and MyMoneyDream who are also from around these parts. Where are you from? No...not the guy in the cubicle next to you who is likely reading my blog as well, YOU! Shout out your city!

Friday, September 5, 2008

Because He's Black

This is an excerpt from an email I was forwarded by Ms. S. I thought it was worth sharing with my fellow minority Obama supporters;

A white man asked his black friend, "Are you voting for Barack Obama just because he's black?"

The black man responded by saying, "Why not? Hell, in this country men are pulled over everyday just cause their black; passed over for promotions just cause their black; considered to be criminals just cause they're black, and there are going to be thousands of you who wont be voting for him just cause he's black! However; you do not seem to have a problem with that! This country was built with the sweat and whip off of the slaves' backs, and now a descendant of those same slaves has a chance to lead the same country. A country where we weren't even considered to be people; where we weren't allowed to be educated; drink from the same water fountains; eat in the same restaurants, or even vote. So yes, I'm going to vote for him! But it's not just because he's black, but because he is hope, he is change, and he now allows me to understand when my grandson says he wants to be president when he grows up, it is not a fairy tale, but a short term goal. Because he sees, understands, and knows, he can achieve, withstand, and do anything just because he's black!"

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

A Public Apology

A few years ago I pointed out to my cousin that she had the same shoe (style) in different brands and different colors. I can't say that she was entirely pleased with me for pointing it out but she has since varied her selection a bit.

Years later, I am unpacking my suitcase from my recent vacay and behold...

exhibit A; same damn purse

Not once in purchasing said purses did I realize that it is the same style in different colors and brands. Sure one is satin, one is leather, and one is patent...but they are essentially the same bag.

So dear cousin I want to apologize for poking fun. Aparently sticking to what we like runs in the family!